Amina and Sarah, the Said sisters - raped and murdered by their Muslim father - still at large.
this society has many victims. it isn't just the men who are creating a violence. the first part of killing the victimization cycle is to realize this. keep in mind how quiet women's groups are and then you realize the reason they are afraid to speak isn't just because they are afraid to confront religion, but rather because to speak out they would have to confront other women who are part of this and believe in their culture of submission. it is hard to fight an enemy when you can't find villains. you can point your blame on the man who committed the end violent act, but you lose if you don't look at the cultural cycle that got him to that point. if you demonize men then you fail to look at all the women who brainwashed him to get to that point. and while it is true that if these men were not killing for Islam, they might be killing for something else... but there is a bigger problem and that is if these men reject their religion then they embrace a secular culture that is very hostile to men. if you leave us guys no place to escape to then unfortunately the domestic abuse people have practically sealed the deal. sadly secular culture has not grown past the Gloria Steinem idea that everyone is the same. the feminists don't understand that they must create roles that allow difference in gender. if men trying to escape cultural intolerance are confronted with a huge paradox that doesn't work for them then they will just become another Darth Vadar. my mother wrote a play that went around the country about "Domestic Violence", It was called, "Rule of Thumb" It went around the country and played for organizations. In the mid 90s I was invited with my family to see them do a version of the play at the Philip Morris building. The people at the event struck me as on edge. one of the women involved in the event was an NYPD officer who was very involved in these issues. I remember thinking out of place at the event and my own mother had written the play. my mother became very good friends with the police officer who spent her career in crises situations dealing with hostage situations involving domestic abuse cases. apparently my mother during a six month period had the police officer disappear and my mother said she felt guilty as if she had done something wrong and she wasn't sure what it was. apparently it wasn't that the police officer thought my mother had done anything wrong... on the contrary the police officer had shot herself to death in her very own domestic squabble. the people who are creating the alternatives need better guidelines then 70s feminism.
